Well, here we are. My birthday has passed. The lovely roses Tim bought me are melting into a sea of white ruffles. The cake has all been eaten, the wine drunk, the babysitter paid - in baby kisses - and sent away. Two days ago, I swear, the fridge was packed. Now my mom is gone, we are out of everything but spinach, milk, and jelly, and I don't know which end is up again.
This post by Joy Cho, whose addiction to color is one of which I highly approve, discusses how little balance she feels between her creative work and her role as a mother and a wife. Amelia and I talk about this subject (and talk and talk about it!) and Elizabeth Gilbert says that a belief in balance is just one more way to sabotage yourself, one more way to stand between yourself and your dreams. I can't say what has tipped the scales for me, whether it is all the changes I've sustained in the last year with a baby, a move, career changes, and an icy, wind-lashing Michigan winter, but something has tipped and I find myself with far more questions than answers this season, severely humbled.
On the plus side, it became clear to me this week how much my mom understands the language of babies. Samantha is blossoming and squawking and banging and exploring in ways she was not just a week before, and I love watching - or rather, hearing - the transition. It's like the girl has finally found her voice, and I'm so happy for her. I'm also inspired: it's possibly no accident that the daughter of two writers has been on the quiet side for most of her life.
In that vein, for a number of reasons, I want to post here more frequently. Sometimes the most appropriate response to confusion is stillness, but I always find my way out of muck with words, the light thread of gossamer promises I am both following and also weaving myself. In fact, writing is my way of finding stillness, so here we go. I hope to see you here more often. Maybe together we can squawk and bang and explore life in all its wild and wooly ways, or you can just watch me slip and slide my way along this season's muddy slope.